Last week I woke up with an insane urge to learn to use a pendulum. This may not seem all that exciting to you, especially if you know a new friend of mine uses one in her business, but for me this is a huge new leap in self-acceptance.
For a while now, I've been struggling to embrace the "woo woo" side of me in "normal" circles. Heck, my own parents don't really even know what I do. (And I'm not really sure my husband does either. HA!) And that's ok. But honestly, the idea that this really is OK is incredibly new for me and sometimes I still falter. I've tried so hard my whole life to be "normal" and fit in.
But it isn't working and I'm done trying. Normal doesn't really exist anyway! What a waste of time and energy!
The truth is, I've been thinking "I'm woo woo as F. If people knew how weird I was, I'd lose it all." But am I really? I'm not that far off from "normal," am I? I just have some crazy cool abilities and that is way more amazing than any imaginary average version of normal I could ever be. And it's time to really embrace that.
So here's the deal -
It's also totally awesome and I wouldn't trade it for anything.
And the more I come out of the woo woo closet, I'm realizing I'm not losing anything by owning who I am.
In fact, I've gained so much more! I've made so many new friends. Deepened countless relationships. Better served all my clients. Found better health mentally and physically for myself by letting go of resistance. Connected with my kids - they love this work and are similarly gifted - as I share who I am and help them navigate their own gifts. (My daughter is a pendulum rock star BTW!) And helped others accept their own gifts.
AND, I've had SO many requests from people wanting to learn what I do and how they can learn too, that I'm going to put together a class. If you are interested, comment here or send me a message: firstname.lastname@example.org
As for the Pendulum
I'm not sure it's my calling, but it is fun to play with. And it was super fun to experience with my daughter as I watched her eyes light up with wonder.
Kids are the best!
Goal for the day - see everything through the eyes of a child.
Thank you for being here!
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I'm too hard on myself. I know I am. I always have been.
But somewhere along the way there was a shift. And the pendulum swung too far in the other direction.
I can't pinpoint an exact moment (although there probably was). But I think it was probably more of a wearing down. Too many years of hearing things like:
And at some point I started believing it. And then I took it to heart. Complacency had taken hold.
And now it sometimes seems like I have an excuse for everything.
And a few weeks ago, I finally said:
"ENOUGH IS ENOUGH!"
I get to choose. I'm setting the schedule and the pace.
And so, I went back to basics to find my groove. And I'm working on it. I'm getting there.
Thanks for being here.
So, the other day, I ended up in a mall.
This is highly uncharacteristic of me. Not only do I struggle with the consumerism and marketing messages but I just plain have a REALLY hard time with the noise, lights, and energy of that environment.
Anyway, I needed my car services at the dealership next door. I typically stay at the dealership and use their handy work stations to accomplish something productive - newsletters, blogging, taking an online classes, catching up on email...you get the point. But on this particular day, I was hankerin' for a trip to Target. (I'm such a rebel, I know!) But Target just happens to be next door...in the M.A.L.L.
And it felt early enough, and exciting enough, that I could handle it. SO I went.
It was bitterly cold that day and only 9am (the sun was barely up!) so I opted for the free shuttle from the dealership. He kindly dropped me off at the nearest mall entrance and I began my trek to the other end of the mall.
I quickly felt that dread and anxiety that is all too familiar to me. But I pressed on. (It was far better than hoofing it outside in the shadows and wind, after all!)
I decided to make it a personal growth exercise.
And it worked.
I soon realized the mall was closed. HA! I was one of very few people in the mall. All the stores were still locked up, most of the lights still off. It was just me and the "old folks" (in various stages of health and ability) cruisin' the halls.
But, more importantly, what I realized was that everyone else seemed so cheerful. Most were walking with a buddy - some conversing, some not. Nearly everyone gave me a smile or nod. Several even extended a greeting.
This was not the mall I was used to. And I liked it. I wanted to stay and walk. Join these lovely people in their journey. Learn from them. (They obviously knew so much more than I did. And not just about malls.) And continue to grow.
I did finish my journey to Target (and then back around the outside since the mall entrance was closed.) but then moved on with my day. But I do plan to visit again soon.
And, long term, I'd love to be one of the 70+ ladies at Jazzercise. Fit as can be. Still jumping and dancing. But if my future holds mall walking instead. I'll be ok with that too.
Thanks for being here.
Wow! What a great questions! Let's see...
So, I think I've always been a bit of a coach - meaning that people tend to see me as wise beyond my years when it comes to things like spirituality, purpose, and the big picture.
I'm also a thinker and analyzer. And I love to brainstorm...
But I guess those are things that make me a great coach, not really my inspiration for becoming one.
I've always been a bit of an environmentalist but not really very cognizant when it came to my own health.
When I had kids, they started struggling with allergies and eczema, respiratory problems, food allergies...I became more aware. We started changing the products we used - personal care, cleaning, laundry.
Then I started struggling with my own health - rashes, GI distress, mental health problems. I wasn't getting answers from western medicine and started thinking outside the box.
I began by learning about nutrition, gut health, a variety of mental and "self-care" practices, and listening to my intuition and I was able to heal my own body.
Friends and acquaintances who had watched my journey started seeking my counsel on the things that had seen me and my kids overcome - food allergies, skin issues, mental health struggles. It was so rewarding to help people who were struggling and couldn't find answers anywhere else.
I eventually realized this was my purpose. To help others make these big life-changing shifts, that were both good for them and our planet, in a way that felt do-able. Possible. Normal.
I started selling Verefina products as a way to teaching about natural skin care (and tossed the other info in when I had a willing ear). But it wasn't enough. So I went back to school to become a holistic health coach and later received my certificate in mental health first aid and wellness recovery action planning.
It has been a great adventure and I look forward to sharing this mission with more people in the years to come!
Thanks for the question Barbara.
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Have a beautiful day!
1 c leftover quinoa
1-1/2 Tbsp oat or almond milk
1/4 tsp cinnamon
2 Tbsp raisins
1/2 tsp maple syrup
Mix, warm and enjoy! Serves 1.
Notes: In this recipe, I used quinoa leftover from dinner but you could cook the quinoa in the morning and make a full pot for the family for breakfast. The photo shows a half and half mix of traditional and inca red quinoa but any variety would work. The milk helps plump the dried berries but you could also use fresh fruit. And the cinnamon gives it a little extra warmth.
Quinoa tips: Rinse your quinoa before cooking to remove the phytic acid (which gives it that bitter taste). Add a 1 inch piece of kombu or other sea weed to the pot before boiling to add beneficial minerals. I promise you won't even taste it!